Dealing with the end of a marriage can seem like a personal failure, given how much you have likely put into making the relationship work. But so much can happen between deciding to file and going through the actual divorce proceedings. It can be difficult to keep track of all the different aspects of our divorces, even with the help of an attorney.

If you’re going through the divorce process, here is a list of the aspects you should make sure not to forget. Make sure to mention them to whoever is guiding you through the divorce process — which will likely be an attorney like someone from Law Offices of Baden V. Mansfield.

Child Custody

If you and the individual you are divorcing from have children together, deciding the custody and visitation schedule (if your children are under 18 years of age) will be a large part of their divorce proceedings. Before going through the divorce proceedings, you should have a serious talk with yourself and consider if you would like sole custody of your children or are open to reaching a joint custody agreement with your partner.

Before the divorce proceedings begin, you should sit down and have a talk with your children. While divorce may be the best option for both you, your partner, and your children, your children may not see it that way. The thought of their parents splitting up may seem frightening to them — and the thought of going through the child custody process may make that fear even greater.

Make sure to sit down with them and answer any other questions. If necessary, you may want to schedule a counseling appointment for your children as they go through this difficult time.

Alimony

Divorce leads to a loss of income — the shared income you once had access to is now gone, and you now only have access to your own income. Alimony was designed to help the transition from marriage to financial independence following a divorce. With alimony, the financially dependent partner is paid alimony — an agreed-upon amount — by the spouse with more income until they are financially stable.

Alimony can either be permanent, temporary, or modified as either spouse experiences changes in their financial circumstances. If you’re looking to receive an alimony payment or know that your partner will request one from you, consider reaching out to an alimony attorney.

Division of Property

If you and your partner share property together, deciding who gets what will likely be a big component of your divorce proceedings as well. Before the process begins, consider writing out a list of the shared property between you and your partner. Make sure to mention it to your attorney — and figure out which property you’d like to hold onto and which you’re okay with giving up.

While this is not a complete list, I hope it helps you keep in mind what you should consider and not forget to address during your divorce proceedings.